This quote by James Allen who famously wrote “As a Man Thinketh”, is so damning yet so freeing at the same time.
When you stop to consider that our circumstances in life are as they are, because of the decisions we’ve made or failed to make, because of the things we’ve done or failed to do, it can leave you feeling pretty hopeless and sometimes a little worthless.
I know that I’ve felt this way whilst at my lowest ebb.
Last year I reached a point when I had to take a serious look at myself and I didn’t like what I saw.
I’d already been through several years of trying desperately to make changes to my life but failing to make any of them stick.
Despite numerous attempts at losing weight I was still fat. I’d lost control of various aspects of my life and I was eating to deal with the stress.
Trying to build a business at home is hard work.
Dealing with the failures is incredibly testing.
Raising small children is relentless.
Keeping on top of the housework is exhausting.
It all compounds and brings about a crushing pressure from which you seek relief.
No one made me eat. That was my decision and it was just one of many bad decisions I’d made over a period of time.
I was in a bad place emotionally and filled with negative thoughts and self pity. I was blaming everyone else for my situation but the brutal truth is, it was all my fault.
Yes, other people and circumstances contributed, but the real damage was done when I decided how to react to the difficult events.
Finally taking control of that one area of my life and accepting responsibility for it made all the difference.
I used my negative emotions about my situation to begin making changes and I started to think positively.
I started to let go of the blame and anger and fostered thoughts about all the things I wanted from life, and not the things I didn’t want.
I started a diet and lost the weight.
Several months on and my life is vastly different.
I still have a some way to go to be the kind of person I really want to be and there are still some big challenges I need to face, but now I understand how my thoughts create my actions and my actions create my life.
Where will your thoughts take you? More of the same? More of the life you want to leave behind? Or will you move towards a brighter future inspite of the difficulties life throws at you?
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