There’s been a huge change in my circumstances… I’m going back to work

by David

in Personal update

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I’m going back to work!

It seems very odd to be saying that after so long.

I’m due to return to a 40 hour a week commitment at the start of October – just over two weeks from now.

But I’m going to keep going with this site because my work at home parent days are far from over.

I have mixed feelings about my return but necessity overrides emotion: nearly half a decade with just one wage coming into the home has left a hole in the finances that needs to be filled.

When I took a career break back in 2008 I quickly formed an intent to explore other ways of making a living that would allow me to work from home whilst looking after my young family.

I made some great headway but lost momentum as I encountered some early failures and a resultant lack of confidence.

Not to be deterred I tried again and, sadly, failed again.

It just wasn’t happening for me. I sunk a lot of time into ventures that simply did not work and even now that still stings.

There came a point when I decided to stop trying to build a business, and instead, invest my time in reading, learning and experimenting with a view to trying again in the future.

Knowing that I would be returning to work I was determined that my options would be vastly better once I rejoined the ranks of the gainfully employed.

I’m at that point now.

All four of my children are now settled in full-time education and I can no longer justify the work at home lifestyle – at least not on a full-time basis.

That may change in the future as I start to put into practice what I’ve learned over the last few years, but for the foreseeable future I’m happy to do the 9 to 5.

Jim Rohn said, “Work full time on your job and part-time on your fortune“… and that’s what I intend to do.

This site is still very relevant. I have nearly five years of hard won experience to share.

I survived as a work at home parent (see my definition of work at home), but there were times when it was touch and go.

Perhaps one of the best things about my experience is that I’ve learnt so much more about myself and I have a better idea of what’s important in life.

I honestly believed at the start that my problems were all external, that I could somehow find a few ‘hacks’ and fix my life – but the real value in the process came from the realisation that the problems I had were mostly inside my head.

It was only when I started to fix my thinking, my outlook and my attitude, that my life started to improve dramatically.

It was Edmund Hillary, the first man to reach the summit of Everest, who said:

β€œIt is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.”

…I’ve spent the last few years discovering this for myself, and armed with that kind of insight I’m excited about the future and looking forward to this new phase in my life.

I’m sorry I’ve stayed away from the site for so long, but I hope you understand there was good reason for doing so.

I’m going to get back to posting new material and I”m already back on the one meal a day diet that helped me to lose 30lbs last year. (Read my latest diet diary here)

I’m happy to answer any questions you might have, but for now I’m going to retain an air of mystery about what exactly I’ll be doing for a living. It’s more exciting that way, don’t you think?

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Midlife Singlemum September 13, 2012 at 11:48 am

Good luck with the new job and the one meal a day plan!

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David September 13, 2012 at 8:02 pm

Thank you! πŸ™‚ The next year or so should be very interesting.

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100 plus September 20, 2012 at 5:05 am

hi david
goodluck on your reentry to the workforce ,might be an adjustment at first but it will quickly feel like you never missed a beat. When your having a hard day think of the income you are earning and that will get you thru,hope you dont abandon your blog because you have loyal readers like me from newyork city USA……

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David September 20, 2012 at 10:01 am

Hi 100 plus πŸ™‚
Thank you, I’m going to enjoy the challenges of juggling everything. The additional income will be very welcome and will give me greater opportunity to follow up one or more of the ideas I’ve been developing.
I’ll definitely keep the site going. Thanks for sticking around, I appreciate it. πŸ™‚

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100 plus September 20, 2012 at 6:07 pm

Hi david
Thanks for the quick reply but i was wondering after reading your latest post on your 1-meal a day plan,will you change anything when you start work in october?Can u go all day until dinnertime to wait to eat?what will u do @ lunchtime when your co-workers are eating?Just really curious on what your food plan will be,also i know u drink tea and coffee and eat apples will that sustain u until you get home in the evenings for dinner?By the way your dinner menu always sounds scrumptious and worth waiting for……..

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David September 20, 2012 at 7:55 pm

That’s a great question! I’m in the wonderful position of having worked full time whilst trying to lose weight, and also having been a full time parent whilst trying to lose weight. So I pretty much already know that I’m going to find it easier when I go back to work.

Fortunately, it looks like the latest I’ll finish in the evening is 6pm (unless I choose to work later) so I’ll still be eating around the time I normally do. I already get up at 5.00am (actually, that’s a work in progress, but most days I manage it) so I’m used to going for a long time before my main meal.

I don’t think my colleagues will notice. They’ll probably be more interested about why I work through my lunch break (and maybe a little suspicious πŸ™‚ )

The reality is that as soon as I hit my goal I’m going to start eating two or three snacks a day and just one main meal. I could do that now but I’ve promised myself I’d see this through to prove (to myself) that it’s possible to lose fat in a sub-optimal way i.e. almost the opposite of what the ‘experts’ advocate.

Somewhere down the line I want to learn to make better choices. For example, I eat dessert every day, but really there’s no need for me to do it… and if I continue to eat dessert I could look at better options.

I still haven’t fixed some of the underlying issues with my eating habits. I’m still prone to bouts of moderate gluttony and greed, and eating for the sake of eating. But I’m going to tackle that as a separate issue once I’ve lost the rest of the weight.

My menu will start to look boring pretty soon :-), I tend to eat the same things over and over because I know that kids will eat it, and lately I’ve also taken to making better use of the left-overs rather than throwing the food away. So, I had curry yesterday and I had it again today. (I’m not complaining, I enjoyed it!)

Thanks for taking the time to ask… it helps me to keep thinking and looking at different options and issues I may not already have considered. πŸ™‚

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